I held the film club in the dorm a couple days ago & the film I chose was of course no other than Eat Pray Love.



I love that movie because I can associate with Elizabeth so well. I can totally understand her feelings. Not to mention I felt like her at least a hundred times.

Also the quotes.

There's so much truth in this movie. For now I picked the line above. Liz is at the Augusteum when she thinks about the effects of ruin.

The reason is because my friend is currently passing a really hard time of her life. But I think her story can help you, dear reader.

As you know, we started university this September. She did too. Got accepted to the university she chose with her dad. That university is only an hour away from our hometown, but she decided to rant a dorm room with one of her 'friends' 'cos it's still pretty tiring to live a commuting lifestyle.
It has been 3 months we started. Despite the distance, we kept in contact & talked often. Through all that 3 months I can tell you, I never heard a positive word from her. She was full of sadness. She was living the life, I lived during high school. You know the saying "your university years are the best years of your life". It was clearly not working out for her. Meanwhile another friend of ours and I were having the time of our lives while she was suffering so much.


One day I went to Buda castle with my aunt and the studying topic came up. As a Hungarian, what we can see is that our country has a pretty effed up school system. There's too much stress and pressure which leads to depression and let's not continue... I could totally feel the same at my friends case. I felt like if she doesn't stop or at least changes something, she will end up like that.

I felt really bad, I wanted to support her, but since we were so far I couldn't be next to her and I wasn't sure what I say is the right thing either.
So when one weekend she said she will quit university I was extremely surprised. I know her parents, I know her father is like mine. Let me tell you my dad would rip my head off if I would quit uni. At least yell. That's why it was a pretty huge step to make. And she made it. Her mom supported her from the beginning, but her dad...

I can understand tho. Maybe he had an imagination about his daughter that she would be like a way he imagined. Maybe he panicked, since in that moment your daughter says she wants to quit uni no  one can see clearly. However he happened to accept it.

So as I am writing this post my friend is already free, looking froward to next September to start it anew at another place. This time at the university & the course she wants.

Her intention was to stay as close to her parents as it's possible, so she chose a course she would never had if she chooses what she wants. Not to mention she had a pretty hard time living with that 'friend' as well.

I just want to encourage you to dare to risk. Dare to dream and dare to make that dream happen.
Maybe in the beginning you are afraid, but believe me, it will disappear.

Dear friend, I know what you have been through. You feel like your life is in pieces and you're clueless how to put it back together. Don't worry, just live the life you've imagined. Don't let anyone stop you. Because the ruin you have survived, is a gift.

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